Love-fear, beliefs and grades of duality in the Universe

I Had an interesting discussion about dualties and the nature of love-fear, in a dualistic universe: the initial premise was that: Everything is Love, or its absence: fear. If you are holding Love, you cannot hold or come from a place of Fear. And if you are in a place of Fear, you cannot come from a place of Love.  Of course, now this has me curious.. is it possible to hold both? Maybe there is a place of super-position — where it is possible to maintain two points of position simultaneously? or perhaps there is gradation on a scale between them in which both are always held in varying degrees…?

I can think of points/ places where I have held absolute love for someone, while at the same time feeling overwhelmed by the “fear” aspect of anger, betrayal, resentment.. So, Are fear and love actually separate things- where it is possible to hold them both at the same time? I have held total compassion for a person when they have caused incredible pain and hurt- understanding a bigger picture.  this is particularly true as a healer– who might experience upset at a personal level ( fear-pain).. while understanding and holding love and compassion at the same time ( it’s a slippery slope, and often.. it sucks, as personal-mundane life happens, and holding professional-perspectives over emotional instances:)… much the way a parent might.. if their child breaks the gift from their grandparent that they held very close to their heart, cherishing a connection that cannot be re-created.. are they not holding both of those aspects simultaneously…?

I remember reading a bit of hermetic philosophy a while back. and in terms of polarity.. it talked about how love and hate( fear) are actually aspects of the same vibration: passion. If you think about them i terms of gradation.. black and white on a colour scale.. it shifts incrementally fro darker into lighter… At what point, does white, through all the shades of grey?

so- does this mean that love and fear are NOT the same energy…? or might it be that they are both gradations of one energy?

If gradations of the same energy.. then one can be holding, in fact IS holding.. love and fear at the same time. wow, isn’t that a deep and profound notion:).. it would also account for the premise that it is only possible to love to the same extent that it is to hate…

It does also take into account the war and peace aspect.. praying for one, is actually praying for the other.. I heard a great line.. worrying is like praying for what you don’t have…:)

I’m not entirely sure how praying for peace=war.. etc in terms of the energetic. I do know/ understand that the universe does not understand negation.. and praying for an end to war.. the only thing the universe hears.. is war.. — so that the goal is to “pray” toward what you want.. not for what you don’t want.. another example– please take my cancer away, is not the same as asking/ praying for- please make me healthy and strong:)

I remember playing around with the notion that things are both masculine and feminine ( yin yang, insert duality here).. at the same time. that things intrinsically are both receiving and transmitting at the same time. the water takes moisture from the air.. and gives it to the soil… for example.. it is one action.. encompassing both aspects in that same motion/ moment.. I hope that made sense:)

I’ll be curious to hear what others think– or what thoughts this might spark for consideration. share below:)

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5 Comments

  1. Eckankar has many spiritual exercises that can help you connect to the higher consciousness that is beyond the dualistic. Living in this physical world we must learn feel without holding on to the feelings. When emotions are suppressed, we create stuck places in our energy fields that inhibit health.
    So when we do a hate/love of something in such a way as it is overwhelming and in self defense we suppress the feeling, we need to go back and let ourselves feel and release the emotion so that we may move on. When one learns to live from the higher point of view there is still passion, but without the condemnation or attachment to an opinion or emotion.
    If you want more information about Eckankar —
    http://www.eckankar.org/

    • Heya Burdoc,

      thanks for the input.. I remember some of my friends being involved in Eckankar, many years ago. I am nominally familiar with it– will try to check the link. thanks :)

      I would respond.. but I think I would be re-iterating a lot of what I just found myself saying..

      and yes– I think you summed it up neatly.. love/hate and releasing it, rather than being over-whelmed by it.. experience it, move on.. etc..

      thanks so much for summing some of this up more succinctly than I did:) I hope you continue to share on the site:)

      Teri

  2. Putting love and hate on the same spectrum with passion in the middle seems right. Isn’t reality only energy? So if we see the extreme of passion, it’s just energy – expressing as love (on the one hand) and hate/fear(on the other.)

    To take your observation further, can’t all extremes be characterized on a spectrum with a middle that is a combination of both.

    War (you are wrong)–Judgement–peace (you are okay)

    Observing is the way to see what is real, then allowance of reality is the way to peace.

    • Gilana,

      I think you summed that up very neatly. Thanks. I believe the book I read, those many years ago, was the kybalion.. a book on hermetic philosophy/ teachings.. I was a strange child ( who reads this at age 16? really..? but hey.. I came across it, picked it up.. and struggled to get my head around some of the ideas.. but I think at innate levels, I did, and do.. comprehend them fairly well- more so now as an adult:)

      I also imagine.. that if most “things” like love-hate war-peace.. share a common vibration.. then it is more likely that yes.. we can hold super-position.. at some quantum level. Not sure this will come out clear and clean.. but if we are somewhere in the spectrum of white-black.. and that inbetween huge grey-zone.. perhaps it is possible also, at a sort of quantum level.. that we can “separate” (?) out the white and black.. the love and the hate.. so that both are existing in their purer(?) states.. that it isn’t ambiguous, or cloudy.. but ambivalent.. which, I believe.. means to be torn.. in two directions.. to have strong feelings on both sides..

      And yes, ultimately.. and perhaps through the awareness of this.. the goal is to gain awareness.. or super-awareness/ meta-cognition.. and watch yourself as the watcher.. and continue to step back from the experience.. in order to release the energetically/ emotionally charged aspects so that we and any choices we make.. come from a place that is from peace and healing:)

      hope that made sense:)

      thanks for sharing

      Teri

  3. Ray Bradbury, the great author, in his book Zen and the Art of Writing, talks about how inspiration can come from what you love and from what you hate. He offers examples of both, and how something that triggered a response in him, positive or negative, was enough to lead him to write one of his books. In other words, passion can live right in between those two polarities, and pushing a person’s buttons from either side can be enough to prompt someone into action.

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