Disentangling Cords with people we love

I think I noted.. somewhere in a recent-past discussion a bit about contracts.  A “contract” is any kind of Truth, or agreement, or operating-program that organises the universe around us.  It can over-ride or under-mine what we consciously and conscientiously are trying to attain.  It can interfere with our “soul path.”.. And sometimes it is an old karmic tie, or a truth or belief we have constructed about the universe, based on our past, personal experiences.  But, it can even be something as minor as the energetic equivalent of leaving a door unlocked, because a friend was stopping by, and then forgetting to lock it later.. or opening a window to clear out the room, fresh air etc, and then a mosquito finds its way in.  Not all “openings” are a sign of dire-predilections.. but  they are good cause to be conscientious, nonetheless: Sometimes energetic cords are intentionally, willfully created- consciously or unconsciously, even with people we love/ love us.

Sometimes, we may opt to allow a cord to be created/connected, and to remain-, either consciously or unconsciously.. But essentially, the bubble should be sacrosanct, and not even god, can enter without permission.  That is how it was taught to me.  and that makes sense.. everyone has equal access to their own source of energy,  from their wiracocha:  the speck of source, or 8th chakra.. above your body, where your individual essence connects with the universal essence,.. sort of.. not sure if other cosmologies have a term for this..

We each source from this place, by birth/being-right.. and we can source from Source/universe, the higher planes/ 5th world.. and from the pure natural elements around us: The sun, fire, the water, the Wind/Air, Pachamama: the Earth under our feet.

In essence there is no real reason someone should need to source from the people around them. And there are ways to help support them without enabling them, and draining ourselves…

If it were me, and someone I knew was sourcing from me, say because they were sick, or “drowning”.. I would gently redirect that cord to a more appropriate source.  In the physical world-level, if it was someone I had a good relationship with, and/ or trusted me.. I might make a point of taking them outside and sitting under a tree, and noting how good it feels to just suck in the sunshine, and feel the earth underneath.. and nudge them into making their own energetic connections while releasing whatever I thought they had attached into my bubble..

Maybe I would try to do this friendly little hang-out  1-2/week for a couple of weeks.. to support that strengthening natural bond.  In this way, I am trying to protect my own boundaries, support someone I care about into a healthier energetic habit, and also having that time that replenishes my own reserves at the same time:)

 

I might also suggest they have/ do a healing session, depending on how open-minded they were. I might offer to do it myself, depending on the circumstance, or recommend someone I trusted, if that were more appropriate.  If I weren’t a healer, I might consider what I thought would best serve this person in resolving their own energy-crisis.  There are many ways to help someone who is drowning, without letting yourself drown while trying to save them.  Teach them to swim, throw them a rope, call a lifeguard.. :) Ultimately, each of us must learn how to swim, if we are to safely navigate these Cosmic Waters of Life and Spirit. We may swim alone, or in groups… but by carrying someone along, on our ride, it could carry someone into waters that are too difficulty for them to navigate on their own; because there WILL come a point when we either cannot or will not continue to carry someone else.  Also, it deprives them of the opportunity and necessity of swimming on their own.  And that is a lot like the first times a child rides a bike on their own.. that moment when they realise they have gotten it and the sheer exuberant joy of independence, freedom and experience.  By releasing them, with integrity and support- that is the gift we are giving them. Not to mention the difficulty of compromising our own energetic vibration, lowering our resonance as a result of blending with toxic, or compromised energy. Just like the swimmer-lifeguard dynamic.. the swimmer can unintentionally drown their rescuer.  It is also important to know when-what and how much we do, or can do, or should do, before extracting ourselves from what could quickly begin to pose a danger to ourselves.

 

Any other thoughts on good ways to support others in separating out energetically? please share below

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Teri is the author of Dancing in Your Bubble (practical spirituality), and Holistic Support for Alzheimers. She is also a practicing herbalist and holistic coach herbalist and holistic coach.She specialises in Holistic Alzheimer coaching and group training, as well as working with non-traditional youth. She uses a wide range of skills and information to support people in creating happier, fuller, healthier lives.she is a life-long equestrian, with rehab racehorses and a small farm of dairy goats.
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Teri is the author of Dancing in Your Bubble (practical spirituality), and Holistic Support for Alzheimers. She is also a practicing herbalist and holistic coach. She specialises in Holistic Alzheimer coaching and group training, as well as working with non-traditional youth. She uses a wide range of skills and information to support people in creating happier, fuller, healthier lives. she is a life-long equestrian, with rehab racehorses and a small farm of dairy goats.
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8 Comments

  1. Marie Helena Pokora

    So very beautiful…and helpful. Thank you!

  2. Hi Terri:
    The Christa healing method that I currently use deals with cords and contracts as well. We learn a method to cut the cords, no matter who they are from, as they not only siphon energy from us, but the other’s energy, dark or not, can be sent into us, and as you said, no one else but US should inhabit our energy field. The method includes a verbal component affirming that the person is cutting cords and dissolving contracts.One thing to note: the cord can be reconnected by that person, and one way that happens is if we allow it. If you’re not aware such a thing can occur, you have no way to prevent it. There is a way, in the Christa material, to build a permanent field of protection around yourself. Even with that, if you allow yourself to get angry, your energy field is “blown open” for lack of a better term, an the cord can be attached. Once the cord has been removed from people,they are able to look at a situation objectively and can move forward. People are thrilled that a certain person doesn’t rile them anymore and begin to see how it all works.

    I’m so glad you are writing about these things. People need to know and understand.
    Blessings, Sherry

  3. Thanks Sherry,

    I haven’t heard of the Christa method/ approach. I think there are probably a large number of ways and approaches. I think the most essential aspect, is both the awareness and understanding.. and to approach with integrity and respect… when we have an intent.. and are clear, energetically in our “agreements”.. I think the approach is less necessary, or rather.. they are all gearing toward the same goal/destination:)

    I’m glad you are enjoying the writings and finding value in them.

    thanks

    Teri

  4. btw- in thinking about the distinction between the christa approach and, say, for example.. what I have been taught..

    it sounds like the christa approach is a stop-gap.. measure sort of.

    If you think of the energy bubble like a cell and receptor.. or as I term them.. goes-intas.. cords generally attach through a goes-inta that you/person has in their bubble. some opening, or contract/agreement about sharing/ giving energy.. or some deeper truth about the world or how you manage your engagements ie- if they dont need me they will leave me.” if THAT is cleared… reworked.. then that goes-inta no longer exists.. within the structure of the bubble.. and less “need” for that protective shield…

    Did that make sense? the protection is good, but say, like anti-depressants.. should be one step along a journey to resolution.. not the end, from which no further work/action is necessitated.

    thanks

    Teri

  5. Hi Teri,
    I recently had a reiki share with a friend and she found a cordin the left side of my pelvic area and into my hip. I have been having an issue with my entire left side back, right into my hip. I felt her literally remove the cord and it hurt. She explained that I have this cord and it’s attached to my mother whom I have had mother daughter issues for quite a few years. I was so surprised. It was on a full moon so I came home and wrote a prayer to release all negativity I feel towards my mother which was 3 pages of why I felt she hurt me,made me sad and angry. I then released it and burned the pages I felt so great when I was done and still feel great about it. I absolutely trust the universe in helping to take care of my situation, how do I know it has been released for good?? will my relationship be different with my mother?? will she notice a difference?? If you have any info to help me that woould be great. Thanks Michelle

    • Apologies on delayed responses. i just found these comments- as I finally figured out what was interfering with my comments thread ( dashboard issues).

      Michelle, I will suppose that you have noticed differences over the past year? it will be interesting, before I make any suggestions.. to hear your experiences and observations as the result of the clearing you had done:) and I will keep tabs on the comments better now:)

      Teri

  6. One of the best ways to clear cords and clean your energy bodies is to do cold showers. Start your shower with cold water first and do for at least 15 seconds, covering all the organs and chakras. Lift your chin to get at the throat chakra. Do first thing in the morning and then first thing after work/school/going out. If you are feeling ill or emotional do more cold showers. I also have one last thing before bed. You can do hot water after the cold if you like. After doing cold showers for a while, you will feel the difference. :grin:

  7. Jools,

    Apologies on delayed responses. i just found these comments- as I finally figured out what was interfering with my comments thread ( dashboard issues).

    why a cold shower? what is the reasoning behind cold water versus warm or hot or any other protocol? What difference between a cold shower, versus a salt bath, or apple cider vinegar bath? I am just curious re underlying reasons and if there are distinctions- how to know when one approach might be preferable to another, or if it is more to personal preferences, and finding which methods work better for each individual?

    tnx

    Teri

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