Cords are threads of energy connection between two energy bubbles. Ideally, nothing should be connected to the energy bubble. But cords do happen, it is not uncommon. they should release after an engagement, and in a perfect world, cords would not connect even during engagements. but what fun would a perfect world be?
Most times, cords just.. release, or go away, much like a memory or emotional charge from a situation. Sometimes though, cords are unintentionally or intentionally, left attached. They can impact both sides, drain the recipient, and act like a computer stealth virus..
Cutting them is not too difficult and can help to reclaim your energetic integrity. I’ve talked about that elsewhere, so i won’t go into it again. ( if you’d like, ask me and I will repost the links on releasing cords, or you can check for it under the categories list:)
Cutting cords CAN mean you are no longer attached energetically in any way. That may or may not mean you no longer have physical connection/ interaction with the person. It just means that there is some sort of energetic undercurrent going on that you do not choose to engage in. Like playing tug of war.. it only works when both people hold the rope. By putting down your side of the rope ( cutting the cord), you are saying,nope. not interested. Sometimes the cord originates externally, sometimes internally, sometimes- who knows.. doesn’t matter. The point is, you have a goes-inta.. or affinity.. that agrees, sure.. I’d love to play tug of war.. SO- clearing the cord is only part of the issue. The other half of that, is figuring out what you agreed to, or by what agreement/contract on your side.. you slipped into this dynamic. it could be anything from ” I need to be right” to.. sure, steal my power.. I wasn’t using it anyway… or.. ” the door’s open, go on it”, which “note” you may have left for someone else.. and forgotten to remove..
this does not necessarily mean you have learned the energetic or karmic lesson. You may have to track down the lesson.. but you are now AWARE that there IS a lesson/energetic/dynamic playing out.. which you no longer “find fun.”
Sometimes, yes, you have moved on.. and someone else has a cord into you that simply needs severing.. but, as noted previously.. if the affinity were cleared.. the other person shouldn’t be able to maintain their connection– so its always worth investigating.. or at least doing a thorough bubble-clearing- looking for and “smoothing over” the entry point.. not all work needs to happen on the mental-conscious level:)
Levels of attachment/detachment.. I see no reason why you cannot completely detach from someone energetically. this doesn’t mean you are creating amnesia.. just that it holds no charge, no interest for you, any more.. like crossing paths with an old friend, boss, partner.. and you just kind of shrug, and wonder what you ever saw in them.. or feel a moment of nostalgia, but no real reaction… even if they might want something from you.. you just have no interest.. sort of like someone offering me fast food.. naahh.. or the beer that has been sitting in the back of my fridge for.. 5? years… I don’t hate been.. I just have no interest in it, and it’s kind of invisible.. there, but not really there..
” I wanted to kill them”… yes, just a metaphor– But- something like that, is a huge energetic charge.. and yes, we have all been in those places..
Instead. think of it this way.:
Are you angry at the other person for doing X… ?
Or angry at yourself, for being betrayed, gullible.. etc… ?
Usually the deeper anger and energy, is aimed at ourselves, but projected outward onto the other person….
The deeper level is the one to tend to:)
All these engagements are our teachers.. they are reflecting back to us, things we need to tend. And if/when done well.. this becomes a gift and a power/strength for you..
You know you have really resolved something, when you have gratitude toward the parties involved. You have gained something you might not have, in any other way… whatever that power might be.
And power, is not a dirty word. Being in ones own power, is essential and required.. being in someone else’s power.. not a good thing.. and that is what power, has become about in today’s modern culture.. power is about power-over.. but we need power, our own power.
If someone is able to steal that power.. but you reclaim it– you are stronger, have healed affinities, and gained an ability you didn’t have.. as well as self-awareness and a process you can apply in other situations.. they have “taught you how to fish”…
And once you know how to fish, you have a skill, and can apply that in any waters.
Do you have people who are energy drains? Try cutting the cords.. see what changes?
Share your experiences below.. and feel free to ask any questions about cords..









Sometimes we may be afraid to cut cords because we fear we will feel suddenly disconnected and alone. If you feel this way, remember that you can connect from the heart, in a healthy way, without creating cords. Cords indicate binding based on emotional issues. Clear love from person to person is not an issue. You can be connected without being bound. In fact, as we learn to release emotional binding, allowing others to love us freely, we discover that our relationships become warmer and closer as we learn to trust others to be in our lives without binding one another in emotional tangles. Self-love is a crucial element in learning to accept this kind of connection with others.
Interesting and very helpful-insightful perspective..
and one topic on this subject that’s been completely un-addressed. wow.
why we create or allow these cords to begin with. thanks..
and yes– in much the same way that we may often equate love and sex as the same thing, or use one as a substitute.. ditto re need and want.. and other integrity-confusions(?).. and by that I mean the integrity of the emotion and word.. is need the same thing as want? Example- many people say, I can’t leave him/her– they need me. Is that a healthy situation or relationship?
Need is not love.. and often, need is an unbalanced relationship, draining, unfulfilling and tending dominantly to the considerations of one side of the equation..
and needing to be needed.. is a collusion with that, whereby the recipient allows the substitution of love/want with need.
I wonder if this has to do with feeling unlovable.. or that love can end.. but if a person is in need.. the ?victim” of the codependent relationship actually has power… so long as they are needed, they won’t be left/ abandoned/etc…
I wonder if part of this is the result of perpetuated unhealthy relationships of modern culture. How many people truly know what a good relationship looks and feels like?
In this instance, the cord is a lifeline.. from whatever fear or insecurity…
worth playing around with this idea more…
thanks for sharing this!
Teri
I love this and wish to add that cords are energetic connections when two people interact, Cutting cords is a beautiful way to have healthier boundaries. Here’s an awesome video http://bit.ly/w5XEIT
Great post. Entanglement has been used as a theoretic concept in physics. After preperatory work, I often adapt a ritual (guided imagery) created by Phyllis Krystal ‘Cutting The Ties That Bind,’ in my work as a transpersonal therapist. This achieves powerful change. When a person is ready to seperate a negative emotional connection (often with a parent, dead or alive) it frees up a system of reactionary thought pattersn and behaviour. In turn it also lightens the projections on other people or groups where this habitual negative system is evoked and operates. If the person who is released is alive, they sense a change in the air during a next meeting and integrety enters the relationship.
Hi there,
glad you enjoyed the post. Entanglement, affinities etc- yeah.. very powerful stuff. One thing though, with entanglement.. while there may be collusion by silent consent.. sometimes the entanglement is not really a contract, but rather more like a portal- which like an open door or window.. just needs closing. Often, we forget we left a window open, until there is a storm, and we feel the breeze or rain coming in:) As such, it is a good attention-getter, since worse things than rain, can get in through open windows and doors:)
And yes, with the severing of cords, there becomes a stronger/healthier integrity in the physical interactions:) we can be near someone, without compromising our energy:) western culture has so lost the notion of energetic integrity.. but I think more people are waking up and figuring it out:)
thanks for sharing
Teri