I have been surprised, but encouraged at the responses from other healers and their identical struggle and juggling act around their friendships outside of fellow healer’s.  Personally, I LIKE and almost prefer my non-healer friends.  I have other interests in my life, and I don’t want to live in my healers-hat all the time…  yes it is what I do, and what/who i am.  But it isn’t what I want to be/ do all the time.  I also like science fiction, and animals, and hiking– things that do not require those same areas of brain and thinking:)

But often, in those friendships.. people are slightly less than comfortable.  Many times, they find themselves sharing more than they might with anyone else.. Often, I hear things like.. How did you know that? or, whoa, you know me too well.. or a look or a response.. where I have ” noticed” something others thought was either well-guarded.. or.. didn’t realise was there.. those… which are in the open.. are a little easier to address.. which, while it sucks.. gee- whoops, sorry.. I just thought the possum on your head looked hungry… I didn’t realise no one ( you?) knew you had a possum on your head.. sort of thing.. The other thing I tend to trip over.. is the people who are not as conscious.. esp true, when being around medicine people.. there are changes in their lives, their actions, their energy… we upset the apple carts- just by the nature of who we are.. what we do– we carry energy differently, and energy around us responds, like waking up, or activating..  healers don’t necessarily DO anything.. aside from occasionally asking if the possum could have a cookie.. Read more »

I Had an interesting discussion about dualties and the nature of love-fear, in a dualistic universe: the initial premise was that: Everything is Love, or its absence: fear. If you are holding Love, you cannot hold or come from a place of Fear. And if you are in a place of Fear, you cannot come from a place of Love.  Of course, now this has me curious.. is it possible to hold both? Maybe there is a place of super-position — where it is possible to maintain two points of position simultaneously? or perhaps there is gradation on a scale between them in which both are always held in varying degrees…?

I can think of points/ places where I have held absolute love for someone, while at the same time feeling overwhelmed by the “fear” aspect of anger, betrayal, resentment.. So, Are fear and love actually separate things- where it is possible to hold them both at the same time? I have held total compassion for a person when they have caused incredible pain and hurt- understanding a bigger picture.  this is particularly true as a healer– who might experience upset at a personal level ( fear-pain).. while understanding and holding love and compassion at the same time ( it’s a slippery slope, and often.. it sucks, as personal-mundane life happens, and holding professional-perspectives over emotional instances:)… much the way a parent might.. if their child breaks the gift from their grandparent that they held very close to their heart, cherishing a connection that cannot be re-created.. are they not holding both of those aspects simultaneously…? Read more »